1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself
or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the
victim of needless suffering.
3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with
others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this
one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy
as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
1. I admit I'm guilty of this one...I'm only human so to say I don't gossip at all would be a lie. I don't gossip often, but I do gossip every now and then (Trying to make myself feel better). This probably derives from some kind of insecurity I have inside me; that or maybe some grudge I harbor towards that certain person. I feel when I do dislike someone or someone does something that is against my morals or values, I put them under this giant microscope and analyze their every action (being a very judgmental SOB). It gets me to really think what kind of person I am...Who am I to say what's wrong and what's right? Well, let's take a step back and give the excuse that pretty much everyone is guilty of doing this every now and then and ask myself for what reason am I doing this? I dislike this person or dislike their actions so much that I need to justify myself to others that this person is really that bad? I honestly didn't put much thought into this until now and looking at it now...one can say it's a pretty atrocious thing to do. I definitely am not God, nor am I perfect. I need to accept the fact that everyone has their views or their way of doing things and be more open-minded. I might be better at certain things than that person and vise-versa. Everybody has their weaknesses and their strengths and I sure as hell know that I wouldn't want people to talk behind my back about my weaknesses.
2. I kind of disagree with this one, only in the sense that if I'm acting a fool or just being obnoxious, I would want the opinions of others. Now with that said, I'm pretty sure I'm just over thinking this and what it's actually referring to is when people are being negative towards you. In that sense, yes I do agree. Why let haters cause you stress and bring you down? (Easier said than done...) If I look back and think about something someone said to me that really "Grinds my gears", (Family Guy reference...haha) it would probably stress me out for hours upon hours through out the day and sometimes several days of the month. I rarely say this now, but these are what I like to call "Fuck It!" situations. If someone's talking shit to me, "Fuck It!". Who cares what they say, if they're not someone that's deemed a positive influence in my life. Why should I give up my time stressing over something, some "nobody" said to me. Putting it into perspective, it just isn't worth my time or energy. If that's how somebody feels towards me then that's their opinion and as long as I know I'm not "that person" I should just move on with my life. Think about all the hours you spend in a year stressing about what someone said to you...yeah you can't even count but you know it's a lot! During that time you could've done something much more productive.
3. This one is a work in progress for me, but something I've improved on vastly over the years. I do express what I want, but when there's a conflicting point of view and when push comes to shove...I usually end up settling (hahaha...wow, if I put it that way...I sound like a fucking pushover). I don't necessarily feel like it's a bad thing though...I do this a lot because I really enjoy the company of others and more often than not I'd rather just go do what everyone else is doing. Not really caring about what we do, but just as long as we're all out together (No homo). I don't necessarily express it, but I do get what I really want which is essentially spending time with the people I call "my friends". I think I've kind of always been this way...not sure why, but yeah, I think I can honestly say that I sacrifice what I really want just for the company of others. Because I feel that's what's most important to me. Maybe I just have a fear of being alone?
4. I recently started applying this one in my life. Sounds simple enough, buuuuut no. I think my lackadaisical way of thinking in high school really influenced my success in life. Too many "whatever" or "Fuck It!" moments, really became a bad habit for me and it slowly bled into my way of living. So many times I've regretted not trying my best when I could, either out of fear of failure or maybe just out of sheer laziness. When a good friend of mine passed away a few years back, the one thing I regretted was not being able to spend more time with him when I could. It almost seemed unfair and I blamed a lot of things but myself. Looking back now, I can say it was my fault. I want to live life now, without having any regret or as few as possible, because you just don't know. People always say "Carpe Diem!", seize the moment...I used to think this was so cliché, but ironically it's something I would like to incorporate more into my life.
This year I made it a goal to become a better person, and yeah, that shit up there is some personal shit. However, I feel if I have whatever I reflect down on paper for people to read and see, it will help me to achieve my goal much more efficiently (Given people call me out when I go against something I'd say I'd do, but yeah you get the point). I tried not to ramble on too much, so if I did...I apologize...Actually...This is my blog, I can ramble when I feel the need to, so if you feel I rambled on then..."Fuck It!"
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself
or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the
victim of needless suffering.
3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with
others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this
one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy
as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
1. I admit I'm guilty of this one...I'm only human so to say I don't gossip at all would be a lie. I don't gossip often, but I do gossip every now and then (Trying to make myself feel better). This probably derives from some kind of insecurity I have inside me; that or maybe some grudge I harbor towards that certain person. I feel when I do dislike someone or someone does something that is against my morals or values, I put them under this giant microscope and analyze their every action (being a very judgmental SOB). It gets me to really think what kind of person I am...Who am I to say what's wrong and what's right? Well, let's take a step back and give the excuse that pretty much everyone is guilty of doing this every now and then and ask myself for what reason am I doing this? I dislike this person or dislike their actions so much that I need to justify myself to others that this person is really that bad? I honestly didn't put much thought into this until now and looking at it now...one can say it's a pretty atrocious thing to do. I definitely am not God, nor am I perfect. I need to accept the fact that everyone has their views or their way of doing things and be more open-minded. I might be better at certain things than that person and vise-versa. Everybody has their weaknesses and their strengths and I sure as hell know that I wouldn't want people to talk behind my back about my weaknesses.
2. I kind of disagree with this one, only in the sense that if I'm acting a fool or just being obnoxious, I would want the opinions of others. Now with that said, I'm pretty sure I'm just over thinking this and what it's actually referring to is when people are being negative towards you. In that sense, yes I do agree. Why let haters cause you stress and bring you down? (Easier said than done...) If I look back and think about something someone said to me that really "Grinds my gears", (Family Guy reference...haha) it would probably stress me out for hours upon hours through out the day and sometimes several days of the month. I rarely say this now, but these are what I like to call "Fuck It!" situations. If someone's talking shit to me, "Fuck It!". Who cares what they say, if they're not someone that's deemed a positive influence in my life. Why should I give up my time stressing over something, some "nobody" said to me. Putting it into perspective, it just isn't worth my time or energy. If that's how somebody feels towards me then that's their opinion and as long as I know I'm not "that person" I should just move on with my life. Think about all the hours you spend in a year stressing about what someone said to you...yeah you can't even count but you know it's a lot! During that time you could've done something much more productive.
3. This one is a work in progress for me, but something I've improved on vastly over the years. I do express what I want, but when there's a conflicting point of view and when push comes to shove...I usually end up settling (hahaha...wow, if I put it that way...I sound like a fucking pushover). I don't necessarily feel like it's a bad thing though...I do this a lot because I really enjoy the company of others and more often than not I'd rather just go do what everyone else is doing. Not really caring about what we do, but just as long as we're all out together (No homo). I don't necessarily express it, but I do get what I really want which is essentially spending time with the people I call "my friends". I think I've kind of always been this way...not sure why, but yeah, I think I can honestly say that I sacrifice what I really want just for the company of others. Because I feel that's what's most important to me. Maybe I just have a fear of being alone?
4. I recently started applying this one in my life. Sounds simple enough, buuuuut no. I think my lackadaisical way of thinking in high school really influenced my success in life. Too many "whatever" or "Fuck It!" moments, really became a bad habit for me and it slowly bled into my way of living. So many times I've regretted not trying my best when I could, either out of fear of failure or maybe just out of sheer laziness. When a good friend of mine passed away a few years back, the one thing I regretted was not being able to spend more time with him when I could. It almost seemed unfair and I blamed a lot of things but myself. Looking back now, I can say it was my fault. I want to live life now, without having any regret or as few as possible, because you just don't know. People always say "Carpe Diem!", seize the moment...I used to think this was so cliché, but ironically it's something I would like to incorporate more into my life.
This year I made it a goal to become a better person, and yeah, that shit up there is some personal shit. However, I feel if I have whatever I reflect down on paper for people to read and see, it will help me to achieve my goal much more efficiently (Given people call me out when I go against something I'd say I'd do, but yeah you get the point). I tried not to ramble on too much, so if I did...I apologize...Actually...This is my blog, I can ramble when I feel the need to, so if you feel I rambled on then..."Fuck It!"
Awesome. I really enjoyed reading these 4 things, I see so much truth in them. It even connects with the message I heard at ALCF today. The key is honesty, with yourself and others, and really only worrying about yourself. A friend told me once, "you can't please everyone, so how about just pleasing God." When I heard that, I knew I had been living wrong. Anyway, GREAT blog, and I loved your personal reflections. I look forward to seeing you do your best. I hope I can be a decent friend and try to improve myself alongside you. -Kristen
ReplyDeleteI agree with your statement in reference to #2. I think it's important to differentiate between haters/people that you don't care about/randos and your loved ones & friends. It's true that "what others say and do is a projection of their own reality," but it's also important to remember that the same truth applies to ourselves-- we need the people we care about and that care about us to set us straight when our own perspective is grossly skewed.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, this post was super interesting. Thanks for shaaring :)
i wish there was a 'like' button for this.
ReplyDeletefantastic post.:)
ReplyDeleteBENIGNO JUSTIN RUIZ----SO ILL TAKE IT THAT THE AUTHOR IS A PART OF MY FAMILY!
ReplyDeleteanother great way to better ones self it to hang around those u want to be like. inside and out!
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